What's new(s!) ?


New Support Group for Partners / Significant Others started.


Due to demand, TG PALS has been running a significant others support group from January 2013. The group welcomes partners, parents, children, siblings , friends and colleagues of trans folk who need a safe space to talk.  This includes people who have been bereaved or have lost a loved one or close friend due to issues arising from trans status.


It can be to let off steam without worrying loved ones who are already struggling, or to celebrate and share coping skills..or simply to make friends with someone who understands that the people in a trans persons life also have a 'coming out' process of their own.


It cannot be underestimated how important a supportive family and social network can be for a trans person in undergoing a successful transition. We aim to offer families and friends the peer support they need to build strong foundations and maintain good relationships and have happy, working family relationships.




TG PALS have been accepted as Associate Members of the East Kent Carers Consortium!

We continue to look towards a working future with positive links and would like to extend our warmest thanks to Carers Support and Norman House for the use of their premises for our Drab & Dress TG Peer Support Group throughout 2012.


We will continue to work with partner caring agencies in supporting those who care for trans loved ones, and hope during this year to be making progress towards supporting young people who have a transgender parent. If you or someone you know would benefit  or you have any suggestions as to how we can best support young people we would love to hear from you!


May I also remind you all to check our news and events pages for dates for the 'So!' 'significant others' group meetings coming up throughout 2013. This group will be meeting on the last Thursday of every month at the County Hotel (Wetherspoons), 10, High Street, Ashford, Kent from 7.00-10.00p.m. Please feel free to email  heather@tgpals.org  for further information.

Human Libraries at Ashford Gateway Plus and Ramsgate Library were both successful where we met several members of the public for some very interesting and intelligent conversations.


These events have been coordinated by Kent County Council Libraries.  The Ashford event included a member of the press which resulted in a short article in the Kentish Express Ashford edition and can be found online along with this picture of the "Books".


We hope you came along to "read" our stories.


There are some photos in our gallery.  See dates and venues for any future libraries on our events page.



Our new post-op buddy scheme has now supported three post-op folk with very pleasing results. All had a 'home from hospital' collection with a buddy to ensure they were settled back in at home, the shopping was done, beds freshly made and bathroom sparkling clean. Buddies maintain daily face to face contact for the two weeks following discharge from hospital, and carry out those essential domestic chores to ensure rest and recovery. 


They will continue to be available by phone or email, particularly if folk are unable to drive and have essential appointments, for a further two weeks or until driving is allowed. Perhaps one of the most important aspects of this service is the reassuring and friendly social contact it provides during a physically and emotionally taxing time. Buddies will refer folk to our peer support group if needed.


It is important to note that this service is the equivalent of what a friend might do, popping in to ensure that the post-op person is supported when they are unable to carry out certain chores for themselves due to the  restricted activities necessary during a recovery period and ensuring social contact, allowing time to chat about  fears, hopes etc. This may be the only social contact some trans folk have if they live alone.


Our aim is to ensure people feel cared about and are supported to get back to their usual routine at a pace dictated by their recovery rather than have to make the best of things at home risking complications caused by doing too much too soon.




THEY ARE NOT NURSES! Post-Op Buddies offer a domestic and social support service. They are not trained to administer medicines or carry out any treatment. Any medical care required e.g wound dressings, should be organised in advance of surgery through the G.P practice who can arrange for a nurse to visit.


THEY ARE NOT MAIDS OR BUTLERS! Our buddies aim to make the transition from hospital to home and the recovery period as relaxed and stress free as possible by helping out to ensure folk can eat, drink and relax in a clean home environment with essential chores done. Buddies will ensure a clean environment but cannot be expected to undertake long-neglected chores.



You can make an application for this service via our contact form, or email  info@tgpals.org




The Drab moved to a new venue on Wednesday 2nd January 2013 at the:

Joe Fagg Pop-In Social Centre, St. Johns Lane, Town Centre, Ashford, Kent, TN23 1QD

In fits all of our aims to have a comfortable by safe location with easy access and ample parking right next to the venue.  If you are still worried we can come and escort you in or show you to the changing facilities / toilets to get ready.


Our opening hours remain the same:-

7.00p.m - 11.00p.m

1st Weds & 3rd Tues of every month.


This group continues to be well attended and is a mine of useful information, advice and support from and for those attending. This group is growing in strength and in numbers and we are very proud of its integrity. Our last group meeting had 30 people!


From a first terrifying trip out of the closet (whether dressed or in drab) to post-op normality, to partners of trans folk, this group has someone who understands your situation. We have been pleased to see partners and supportive friends and it has also been great to see a growing group of (FTM) trans guys getting the benefit of peer support as well as the (MTF) trans women.


This group is a real tonic!


We extend our thanks to Carers Support for the use of Norman House during 2012.

TG PALS Newsletters


Watch this space!


The first edition of our newsletter is due for release in June 2013.




This will be sent via email or hard copy to anyone who registers their details with us. Please use our contact form available on our Contact Us page. 


If you are interested in sharing your story, letting people know about your group etc  please email us at newsletter@tgpals     


For organisations to advertise in any upcoming issues at very reasonable rates, contact us



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