DRAB & DRESS TG Support Group

  • Meets on the 1st Wednesday and 3rd Tuesday of every month in Ashford, Kent
  • 7pm—11pm
  • Support for trans folk by trans folk
  • Partners welcome 
  • Agency / professionals visits by prior arrangement
  • £3 suggested donation per person to cover room hire and tea / coffee



Our aim is to have a comfortable and safe location with easy access and ample parking right next to the venue.  If you are feeling nervous one of our 'meet and greet' folk will come out to you and walk you in. We welcome folk in drab (birth gender mode), dressed (preferred gender mode). We have facilities for those who may wish to change on site with mirrors for make-up.


No matter how you present we will always address you by your preferred name. You will be asked to sign in but this is also in your preferred name and is a health & safety requirement in the event of fire evacuation. 


This group continues to be well attended by people across Kent and beyond.  It is a mine of useful information, advice and support from and for those attending. This group is growing in strength and in numbers and we are very proud of its integrity. Our group meetings often have 40+ people!


From a first terrifying trip out of the closet (whether dressed or in drab) to post-op normality, to partners or family members of trans folk, this group has someone who understands your situation. We have been pleased to see partners and supportive friends and it has also been great to see a growing group of (FTM) trans guys getting the benefit of peer support as well as the (MTF) trans women.


This group is a real tonic and if you would like to know more please feel free to email us!


We extend our thanks to all Drabbers past and present. You have made this group the warm and wonderful support that is today and we look forward to its continued success...and to the rollout of Drab & Dress groups across the country! Watch this space....

Last meeting

Wednesday 1st May 2013


Over 40 again, it is wonderful to see so many of you every time.


We have over 60 members now and thank you all for filling in your surveys, we have over 35 responses.


Dieta has now got some sponsors for her slimming so good luck to her.


Hope to see you all at the next one when you might see us get a cheque presented by Asda.

Drab & Dress - Tuesday 19th March 2013


Over 40 people this week!!  An incredible turnout and so wonderful to see.


Lovely to see so many faces returning again and thank you for the collection of Asda tokens, it has certainly helped.  You know who you are!!


Thank you again for those who have filled in membership forms, now up to 29 completed forms so a good start.


All the boys seemed to spend the night comparing stubble growth while the girls compared shoes so all the gender clichés are still firmly in place.


Thank you all for continuing to support the Drab events and eachother, to those 23 attendees who stepped into the spotlight for this photo.  It is so nice see to so many confident people sharing their stories and support, it really is a self-sustaining support network and a wonderful group dynamic.


Hope to see you on April 3rd!


"I personally thoroughly enjoyed this event and find it incredibly grounding and just about the most "normal" social event in the TG Calendar.

People here relax, and talk, yes talk properly, the range of subjects and conversations is from the serious and supportive, switching to gut busting belly laughs echoing around the table as the wit and banter quick fires around the room QI style. It is not about what you wear, what you look like, how pretty you are, its about who you are.

Its just a good old social get together. I would say the TG community needs more events like this. Around the big table, (yes it is big) the only social fuel is tea, coffee, squash, and biscuits and cake.  Everyone is welcome and equal. If you think you are shy you won't be left sitting in the corner for long!"




"Another great evening with some very good friends whom I would never have had the privilege to have known without this essential support facility.

Heather and Abbie are amazing people who give their time willingly to assist those in troubled times and deserve thanks for doing so.

I travel over 100 miles round trip for this facility starting my day at 0530 for normal work stuff and then travelling down from London to the group  and not getting back home to around 0030 , a very long day but an essential part of keeping my sanity and M's development on course."
Miss M.M .xx